Dating games for guys only
That there were rules and regulations that must be followed in order to successfully go about the relationship, or in most cases, potential relationship.
That if you don't follow said rules, you're doomed to be written off as desperate and uninteresting, which, of course, none of us would ever want to be labeled as. In fact, I think most guys would agree that not only do they know when you're playing games, they also hate that you do it. I'm not quite sure why anyone would think this was a game worth playing.
It’s long been the rule that when dating someone whose behavior is marked by hot and cold reactivity, you’re standing on shaky ground.
No one is basing how worthy you are off of how quickly you text them back. If you see a message from him and are in a place to respond, respond. One minute you’re high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you’re frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don’t understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games. Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. Once we have the ability to see hot and cold for what it is, we’re less likely to suffer its negative effects.Just because he’s sitting alone and doesn’t speak to anyone in the class doesn’t mean he’s a total lunatic.
If you’re interested, all it takes is a slow pack-up-and-hang-back after class to initiate conversation.
Our automatic response is to chase when the “other” pulls away.